by Dorothy
McCoy
Power is my mistress; I have worked too
hard at her conquest to allow anyone to take her away
from me. --Napoleon
The workaholic is in a committed relationship with his
IPad, IPhone and laptop. You see him or her sitting in
airports, impeccably dressed and keyboarding or
animatedly arguing with their cell phones. They appear
frazzled, as if someone has just trampled all over their
shiny Gucci loafers or high heels pumps. A workaholic’s
career is the core of his or her self-concept, not “what
he or she does.” Needless to say, they take their work
very seriously.
I have seen this “work is God” mindset in police
officers, especially if they are recent academy
graduates. Their all-consuming zeal for law enforcement
usually declines through the years and they become more
mainstream. This is not the prognosis for most
overachievers. Workaholics share much with individuals
who meet the criteria for Obsessive-Compulsive
Personality Disorder (OCPD). This is not the same
diagnosis as Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), the
life-limiting condition made famous in James Brooks’, As
Good As It Gets, starring Jack Nicholson. OCD
individuals may have compulsive behaviors such as
checking many times to be certain the front door is
locked before leaving for work. As you can readily
understand, these behaviors can interfere with the OCD
sufferers’ relationships and career. Whereas, the
defining features of OCPD is a tendency to be
perfectionist, inflexible, and preoccupied with
orderliness.
Workaholics miss much of the fun in life. They simply
don’t have sufficient time for their families and
friends, hobbies, physical activity and restorative
relaxation or so they will swear to you. In reality,
they have the same twenty-four hours as you and I. Work,
which is not only laudable, but decidedly necessary for
most of us, becomes the driving force in their lives. A
career can be a voraciously demanding lover and
taskmaster.
Some experts will insist that this commitment to a
career is pathological. These experts may say
workaholics are insecure and unable to face life,
consequently they hide behind their work. This may be
quite true of some workaholics, but human beings are
exceptionally complex creatures. There are no
uncomplicated answers that will always apply.
Enthusiastic workers may gain a great deal of
satisfaction from their art or the services they
perform. Counselors, clergy, physicians and artists
might fall into this category. Many of the more
manipulative types crave attention. They might become
actors, attorneys, clergy, musicians, politicians and/or
“the expert” in any field. Naturally, not all or even
most of these illustrious professionals are manipulators
or consummate attention junkies. Human beings will
invest their time and effort wherever we receive the
biggest payoff. The payoff may be anything we value,
such as increased self-esteem, power, adoration, money,
altruism (…does it then count as altruism?) or pleasure.
Workaholics cross the line and the venerable work ethic
can become a destructive obsession or addiction. Are you
a workaholic? Are you tied to your workplace by your
iPhone? You may be a workaholic. Let’s find out.
Criteria for the Workaholic
The Workaholic is easy to identify. You will know by the
time you finish reading the criteria if you might fall
into this self-driven category. Remember, these are
choices not dictates by your employer. That is a
different category.
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You are the first one at work
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You are the last to leave
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You regularly bring work home
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Most social occasions involve work
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Most of your “friends” are coworkers
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You promise to be home in time for dinner , but seldom
follow through
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If you take a vacation you frequently check in with your
coworkers or employer
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Your conversations usually revolve around your work
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Frequently, you eat meals at your desk
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You take business calls after hours
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You say you will cut back on your hours, yet that never
happens
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You want your performance to be “perfect”
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The only right way is your way
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You are inflexible
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You won’t delegate work unless it will be done your way
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You are overly concerned about rules, schedules, lists
and organization
If you have many of these traits you are probably
excessively committed to work. You commitment may be
causing problems in your personal relationships. Your
health may be suffering because of a haphazard diet,
lack of exercise, alcohol consumption to reduce stress
and/or insufficient sleep or time to relax.
Two of the most common types of workaholics are the Holy
Grail Seeker (HGS) and the Overburdened Procrastinator
(OP). The HGS believes that perfection exists “out
there” and they must find it. He or she looks for it in
every assignment, every project and every mission. It
doesn’t matter to the HGS that perfection takes a great
deal of time (infinity) and the Holy Grail is
unattainable. The dedicated HGS continues to pursue in
vain. They spend numerous long hours refining and
improving. The HGS needs the advice I was given when I
was wading through the dissertation process. A professor
at Emory University whispered the secret to graduating
in my ear, “There are two types of dissertations. One is
perfect, the other is finished.” I took that to heart.
The Overburdened Procrastinator takes on too many
projects because he cannot say no, or he thinks he is
the only one who can complete the job correctly. He
can’t designate, because co-workers are unable to meet
his lofty standards. He is similar to the frazzled
mother who won’t allow her young child to stir the cake
batter, because he might make a mess. For the OP there
is only one right way—and it is his or her way.
Therefore, they accept projects before they have
finished current assignments. His desk “floweth” over.
The OP may relish a challenge and the adrenaline rush
that follows. Some individuals are trapped in jobs that
require a great investment of time and they cannot see
satisfactory options.
Again human beings refuse to fit nicely into little
labeled cubby holes. Each workaholic burns the midnight
oil for reasons that are uniquely his or hers.
Generalizations and theories help us to better
understand certain behaviors, but they do not give us a
map with a giant “X” on it.
The Workaholic and the American Work Ethic
Americans are a hardworking, ambitious people. We work
longer hours than most Europeans and we take fewer days
off. Research studies indicate that many of us never
take vacations.
Companies explored the ideal balance of work and life
responsibilities as early as the 1930s. Jumping ahead in
time, the “W. K. Kellogg Company created four six-hour
shifts to replace the traditional three daily eight hour
shifts” (Lockwood, 2003, p. 2). The Kellogg Company
reported an increase in employee spirits and competence,
possibly because employees were less fatigued or where
happy with increased leisure time. However, eighty years
later the work ethic is still very much alive in the
hearts of many Americans. We admire and respect
individuals who are productive and hard working.
However, this may be somewhat gender specific. Men are
admired for providing well for their families. Women who
are ambitious and work oriented may be criticized and
accused of neglecting their husbands and children.
However, it appears that both genders may feel guilty
when their work life steals time from family
obligations. In a study by Rutgers University (2001),
most working adults were concerned that they were not
spending enough time with their families. This is
encouraging news for the partner of an overachiever.
Starring the Workaholic
We have an “embarrassment of riches” when searching for
famous workaholics. Let’s begin with the overachieving
funnyman and fledgling writer, Peter Sellers. He was so
busy that he slept only four hours a night. Sellers
starred in numerous movies, including the highly
successful and hilarious Pink Panther series. He
worked ten years to bring his last movies, Being
There… to the big screen. For his efforts, he won a
Golden Globe award and an American Academy Award
nomination. Unfortunately, he died the following year of
a heart attack. He was married four times.
Let’s take a trip back in time to the French Golden Era,
when Frenchmen glowed with pride in their leader,
Napoleon Bonaparte, Emperor of the Empire. Incredibly,
he created an Empire that heavily influenced Europe for
more than 100 years, on four hours of sleep each night.
Napoleon was much too busy conquering nations to waste
precious time dozing. In spite of his military
brilliance, political savvy, strategic genius, demanding
schedule, and scant sleep, he toppled from power in
1815. According to historian, Robert Wilde (2003), “He
couldn’t be everywhere within his empire at once, and
the forces he sent to pacify Spain failed, as they often
did elsewhere.” Perhaps, he was not good at delegating,
a problem for many workaholics. The last straw floated
down when his army was decimated in a horrific Russian
winter struggle. In all fairness to his enemies, he left
with 400,000 troops (a number unheard of in this era)
and returned with 10,000. He had the workaholics drive
and limited long-term planning. Napoleon was banished to
St. Helena Island where he died in 1821. He was married
twice and home very little.
Famous inventor Thomas Edison was, by all accounts, an
enthusiastic workaholic, in fact, his entire team was
known for keeping an exhausting schedule. However, after
his first wife died he became smitten with a lovely
eighteen-year-old. So much so that he could not even
navigate the streets safely. According to his diary,
“Saw a lady who looked like Mina. Got thinking about
Mina and came near being run over by a streetcar. If
Mina interferes much more will have to take out an
accident policy” (Beal, 1999). Later in his life, after
the glow wore off, “he spent a shockingly small amount
of time with his family.” From this we learn that a
smitten lover will not necessarily transition into an
attentive husband.
Understanding the Workaholic
Workaholics are not unlikable or deceptive by nature.
Generally they won’t steal your jewelry, fabricate a
“façade” personality, profess undying love that also
does not exist or get busted on drug charges on a first
date. They may have issues with perfectionism and
moderate (sometimes severe) inflexibility, but these
traits are not cast in iron. They will often yield
somewhat if they see a reasonable, rational necessity.
If you are a workaholic, use logic to consider the pros
and cons of continuing to be an overachiever. Each
individual must make this decision for himself or
herself after weighting the rewards and the foreseeable
consequences. Are you a workaholic or an
enthusiastic achiever? You decide. Hint: Ask your
significant other for feedback on this one..